Friday, June 13, 2014
“Supposing it didn’t…”*
“Supposing a tree fell down, Pooh, when we were underneath it?”
“Supposing it didn’t,” said Pooh after careful thought.
Piglet was comforted by this…
As a person with an anxiety disorder, I’m used to having my mind race to the worst-case scenario with the smallest of hints that something could go wrong. For that matter, I’m used to having my mind rush off to “what if this bad thing happens now” even when things are going well.
I’m not alone in this.
Many people, with and without anxiety, have a hard time accepting a happiness, a grace, a blessing of time and love when it comes to us. Maybe we are jaded…or have been hurt too much (or just enough)…that we think all silver linings come with a dark cloud.
This past week, I had the most amazing vacation with the man I love. It was six days that we had together.
At first, I thought how quickly the time would pass. I thought, even in the midst of doing some pleasant thing or having some adventure, how much I was going to miss him when he went back home. But wise man that he is, he cautioned me to just enjoy the moment. Each moment.
And hard as it was for this anxiety-prone, what-about-the-future, scared-it’s-all-to-good-to-be-true girl to do…I made that happen.
When my thoughts would race ahead, I would reign them in. Difficult at first, it became easier.
And an amazing thing happened.
Instead of hours rushing by like minutes…like I’d feared…I found moments that felt like hours.
Time spent lingering over coffee, browsing the news, and holding hands felt like all day. Yet we still had time to ride the motorcycle, shop in the little tourist town we were in, find lunch at the place Everybody Said We Should Try, and have a long, lazy afternoon and evening that stretched into the stars.
It’s over now. It was more than a week ago. That time has been the time that has flown by…when I’ve been busy with work, home, and friends.
But that time away in the cabin was drawn out like a silken spider web…strong and taut and ethereal…because I chose to live in the now. To savor the simple elegance of each moment.
And nothing bad happened, either.
We enjoyed each other’s company. We didn’t have an accident on the motorcycle. I didn’t make an idiot of myself getting on or off the bike, though I’m still not perfect at it.
We laughed, loved, and lived in the moments and racked up scores of memories to see us through until we get to spend time together again.
Had I fretted the whole time about how quickly it was going or wondered what could go wrong at any given second, I would have missed so much.
I’m glad for the wisdom of my love and Pooh…who teach me to think counter to how my anxiety would lead.
* A.A. Milne